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my boyfriend proposed in may with a ring and all that and i said yes. he called my dad after and there was some misunderstanding that my bf was asking permission, not asking a blessing. my dad can be a little scary, his is the father of 3 teenage girls and no sons, and he told my bf that 'yes he can propose to me, just not right now please'. so that was our fault that we were in a pickle and our first engaged moment was totally ruined.
my mom went ballistic and crazy mad for wanting to get married young for the rest of the day (i was away for college in another state, hes in the military in the same state) and my dad was just...shocked, i guess. after that day, my parents did not bring up anything related to marriage/ engagement/ proposal/ that type of thing.
now, im finishing my BS here at home and the boyfriends on patrol for the whole holiday season and after (i see him in march :( ).
now, my parents (mostly the mother) are all anti-young-marriage yet THEY got married at the same age i am. Actually, they ran off and eloped, then came home and got engaged and then had a ceremony...and 25 years later, they are still married. my mom made me feel like i was trash and some "housewife" becasue i want to marry the man that makes me happy and makes me smile. but, when i see him in march, i want to come home with that over-the-top sparkler he bought. i want to be engaged to him and i want to plan a wedding. i will marry him, and we will do it in vegas if thats what it comes too, but i want our families behind us. we'll both be 21 in a few months, older than my parents were when they got married/eloped. i obviously wouldnt get married the next day if i get engaged.

how do i bring this up with them without my mom going crazy and kicking me out of the house?

im almost done with my BS, only 2 more semesters to go and they were the ones that wanted me to come home and live with them to finish since its so expensive.
i want to live here for another year, i want my parents to be supportive, and mostly i want to be engaged to my boyfriend. i have other issues with my mom but they should want there daughter to be happy right. they love my bf like their own son and he loves them too. i dont want my family to be tense and fustrated becasue im finally doing what i want.


I saw the first 20 minutes or so of a very disturbing movie awhile back.
-It began with a decent into an afterlife.
-A mother, father and teenage daughter at a rental cottage.
- Mothers drives car off the road into river.
- All three actors are well known.
- I thought teen girl was Reese Witherspoon, but appears I am wrong.
- Released mid to late 90's (?) as girl makes reference of going to Pearl Jam concert.

Any clue what movie I am talking about? I would love to see the rest someday.


hello
im expecting a baby girl anytime now. Me and my hubby Ben have a daughter together called Kieria and i have a daughter from my teenage years called Beau. Ben has excepted Ben as a father and im so relieved she is now going to be a big sister for the secound time. We are expecting a girl.
We were thinking of the names either:

Daisy
Ava
Poppey
Tamari
Maici
Evie
Maisie
Kyra

but our 2 year old daughter Kieria is seton her name being Peppa after Peppa pig! could anyone suggest anymore names maybe and also middle names would be great aswell.

many thanks!
Ashlee Tayla (27)
You pronounce Kieria (Keer-a)


Just to start off. My father lives and works in another country though he is still married to my mother and visits often. Two of my 3 sisters are currently living overseas. They are 20 and 18, one is living in London until January and the other is living in Melbourne permanantly. I live with my mother and my 5 year old sister. I am also a girl.
The issue here is that my mum is always so clingy and she always thinks that when I ask her for rides to meet up with friends and stuff that I am only using her for transport. I mean I establish a pretty average relationship with my mum as a teenage girl, I'm civil to her, I do stuff for her if she asks me too, things are very casual and we're close but I wouldn't talk to her about boyfriends and stuff unless I had to. Since the house is pretty empty, she doesn't like me going over to friends house for sleepovers instead of having them over, that is understandable, I get that she's lonely, and I try to abide by this rule. But whenever I ask her to take me to some place, she acts like she is bestowing such a great gift upon me and that I should be so grateful that she has taken time out of her day to do this for me. I do appreciate it that she does drive me around, but my other friends' mums always ask if we need rides and stuff and its very casual, like it's just a ride. Is it right for my mum to actually ask me to say thank you when she picks me up? Isn't it kind of a given? Like I don't expect her to thank me when I do the dishes or tidy up the house if she has asked me to do so. If you think about it, the tasks are pretty equal for the different roles we play as family members. I take the time out of my day to vacumn the house, she takes the time out of my day to pick me up from hanging out with my friends, she's not even particuarly busy either. I just feel like everything she does for me, she feels as if she's being so generous, but to me it just seems like the task of a good mother. To me, doing the dishes etc. are just the tasks of being a good daughter. You appreciate each other, but you don't need to keep bringing it up because you know it's just there. There is a public holiday this weekend making it a day longer than it's usual two days. I have made plans with my friends for the first two days and have kept my last day free because I wanted to spend some time with my mum. And I KNOW she's free because my little sister has a party and she had told me that we might be able to do something together. So this was last week when she said this and I kept the last day free, thinking that maybe we could go along that day and see what we wanted to do. Today I brought up that maybe we could do something together on that day and she accused me of just assuming she was free, taking advantage of her after I had all my fun with my friends, because I had nothing to do that day. I was so furious to hear this. I am a good kid, to put it honestly. Good grades, reasonable temper, polite etc. and she KNOWS that. Yet when I youtube or whatever she always asks what I am watching, not out of curiosity, but to check I'm not watching "something inappropriate." What does she think I'm watching? Gay porn? Can't she just trust me that it's nothing bad? I don't know, I get so worked up sometimes. Please help :)
x


I find myself having an attitude with my parents and getting annoyed with them when we talk. I don't want to be mean, especially since they really did nothing mean to me. I feel so ungrateful.

I also have been feeling like I just don't like my father. Our conversations are awkward and I just don't feel comfortable around him.

Why am I this way? When I was a kid I liked both my parents and was a good daughter.


Life's too short to mess up, don't you agree?
I'm in my mid 40s happily married to my husband for almost22 yrs, have a wonderful teenage son and daughter and am fostering to help other less fortunate. My father was an abusive alcoholic and womanizer yet outsiders thought he was wonderful and charming.
I have learned a lot from my Dad in a reverse sort of way!!!
We have a friend in his 70s is going for heart surgery and crying about the prospect, another lady friend in her 50s overcoming breast cancer. My mother, bless her, has recovered from having a lump on her kidneys which is benign thank goodness.

* 57 minute
Jane Marple - excellent answer, being winners and learning from trials. Thank you

Debi, I wonder if my Dad had any illegitimate kids, hahaha
Libby and lkl I love your answers, thank you so much
Derek S you are the sort of person that makes society stink, I have pity for you


You know and treated her special.


I have known my step-daughter since she was four, her father and I got married when she was five. She's very intelligent and has always been independent and quiet. Her birthday is on December 31st and she'll be thirteen. Her father and I have full custody of her and her mom is only allowed supervised police visits. All my kids go to private schools and she decided to go to a boarding school. I have a seventeen year old daughter I had when I was thirteen, a son who is 5, a daughter who is 3 and triplet girls who are just 4 months. My stepdaughter calls us every week but recently she's hung up when I got on the phone to talk to her. I thought maybe it was because we told her that we were going out of town for christmas and that she can't come home for her birthday. It is not that we don't ant to take her with us, it's just that it's a trip to go see my family and my parents tend to think she has a really big attitude. I personally think that is just part of a teenage girl but they asked me not to bring her. I told them that she is as much my daughter as my actual kids and that I wouldn't come unless I could bring her. My oldest daughter isn't coming and since my stepdaughter nad her are really close, my daughter was going to surprise her by going up and staying at the school whiles we are gone. My stepdaughter says I leave her out of everything and I don't know what to do.


I am the mother of four daughters. The three youngest are biologically mine. My oldest a gift from my second husband. That's right..a beautiful blended family. The girls were 16, 7, 2 and 9mos. when we married. My oldest had never had a mother in her life and we fell in love with each other after some rough bonding moments that can happen in the life of a teenage girl. My husband relished his role as the father of four girls. My youngest daughter bonded with him very quickly and they loved each other fiercely, His wish was to adopt all of the girls.
The father of the two youngest would not allow this. He proceed with the adoption of the oldest. To make a long story a little shorter, fast forward to a busy mom and dad growing apart and divorcing. We divorced four years ago and he remarried. She recognized only my oldest daughter as his child. His wife believed that only his biological child applied. A year and a half later he passed away and to his wife's dismay named our oldest daughter as 50% beneficiary to his life insurance policy. She kept this information from her sisters and mislead them about the percentage and amount of insurance. They believed the money did not matter to her and that she was dividing it equally with them. I however was aware of the details. She kept most of the money for herself and divided a fourth of the money between her three younger sisters. She gave 25,000 to the sister he adopted and told her that the two younger sisters were only getting 7,500 each. She told her she didn't need to tell the other two how much she had recieved. Needless to say, she did tell them and now they have figured out that she was not honest with them. This is tearing them all apart. My oldest says it's not her fault that he only put her name on the policy. He did it. She didn't. The girls are now ages 33-17. Her sisters feel she chose money over them. I need advice. I don't feel that she did what her father would have wanted. I don't think that money should come between family like this. If you are wondering, yes, i have life insurance. Yes, all of them are equal beneficiaries. Please, any advice would be appreciated.


for english I have to write a creative writing piece about a personal legend.
Can someone read mine over and edit it please :) and tell me if it's good.
p.s. sorry for it being long!

The Awakening
"Mommy, who was your first love?" my 5 year old daughter Alitz asked me as I combed her long brown hair. Her blue eyes pierced the pits of my stomach as I re-called my past of love and loss. My story of longing and fate. It's hard to believe that someone who is in the position I am in now could have had such a tragic story. Me, Selina, who was just crowned Mrs. Canada Universe 2027. I, Mrs. Cascone the woman who is a famous psychologist, yet manages to fit in time to fulfill her passion of the arts. No one could imagine the pain I went through those years as a teenager, but I guess I would have to eventually explain to my daughter a bit of my former life.
***
After my grandfather passed away and my father left I was forced to live in a smaller home. I was 14 when I moved into that house. It was an average sized semi near a church and a large forest that carried a strong force of attraction to it. The red bricks let off a vibrant glow as I stepped out of the car on that early summer day to go and see my new residence. It was small and cozy, and couldn't be more perfect. My room was painted green and my floors were pale hardwood. I unpacked all of my clothing and plugged in my most prized possession, my laptop.
As I opened it up my messenger service went off alerting that someone was speaking to me. I clicked it opened and read a greeting from my first love. Nicholas was a nice guy, not very attractive but always good to me. What are looks if you can't even talk to a person anyways? We had a perfect relationship, except for one thing. He lived in Markham, I lived in Woodbridge, a thirty minute drive to see each other. Regardless, I loved him with everything I had in me, and I was almost certain he felt the same. He was my destiny of life and I was his hope to be a better person, together we matched like two pieces of a complicated puzzle certain to be.
The summer went by quicker than I expected it to. Everything flashed by in a rush, but at least I got to see Nick a few times before it ended. With the end of summer, school began and I was starting the ninth grade. High school was bound to be a place of new learnings and fresh faces, a place to break out and become who I am meant to be in life. Everyone was nice and no one gave me any problems at that school. I went on for a few months before actually becoming depressed.
It was December 17, 2009 that Nicholas broke up with me, the most confusing day of my life. It felt like my world had stopped but everything else kept on going. Exams were coming up and people were counting on me to keep my grades up. More importantly, I was counting on myself to lead a bright future. But my heart felt like a thousand pounds had been dropped into it, leaving behind a deep black hole.
It took me one week to recover. Thats when I went on a walk and saw the forest that had been calling me since the very day I moved. I almost sprinted across the streets to get to it. It just looked so big and mysterious. It was then that I decided I wanted to walk from one end to the other. I took my first few steps inside of the leafy walls where no one could see what happened to me. There was an obvious trail that lead right through.
More than five times through, I had to stop turn around and chicken out then internally yell at myself and walk further. It was those actions of perseverance that made me stronger and caused an epiphany for me; If God wanted me to die, that would be his decision and I could do nothing about it. It made me realize that I should not be holding on to the people I want, just let the universe hand over the people I need. If it was not meant to be with Nicholas then that was that. I'm sure there was someone else hand crafted especially for me. Learning these lessons made me feel like I had just opened my eyes for the first time ever. So eventually I made it through and was so proud of myself. If I can be courageous enough to do that, I can do anything.
***
I lived my teenage years out with those lessons in mind. It made me into the person I am today. Honestly I couldn't be more happy with my life.
"Mommy?!" Alitz said irritated now.
I simply smiled at her, looked into the next room, pointed at her father and said
"He's sitting right over there."


Hi, i'm going to Costa Blanca this half term with my family. This includes a teenage daughter, a mother and a father. Mum likes reading and relaxing and shopping, father likes walking and daughter likes swimming, kayaking and finds walking ok and shopping. We are hiring a villa with a pool in Jávea, but what is there to do around the area? We don't want to go to too many animal parks and water parks which seems to be the area's main attractions. What else is there to do? Preferably something that we can all do together, or something that one or two of us could do.


my husband is the disciplinarian in our house, but he's in the Army so he's often away. our 15 year old daughter is outspoken, domineering and unable to follow orders. i'm very submissive and i don't know how to control her, i think she's learned this behaviour from her father. how can i stop her treating me like her doormat?


My step-daughter was diagnosed bipolar in 2007. In 2008 a doctor said he thought she was misdiagnosed and weaned her off the meds. She was off the meds from June 2008-present. She was symptom free the whole time. She had "normal" teenage girl issues (she is 15 1/2), but nothing as I have read with bipolar disorder. We are now about to begin a custody battle since she has said she wants to live with her father and I. She came to our home and refused to go home one weekend. My husband took her to school on Monday morning until him and the mother can work something out. We are now going to start court proceedings to gain physical custody. The mother has promptly taken her back to the original diagnosing doctor and after 2 sessions the doctor has put her on Geodon for bipolar. So far she has refused to take the meds. Any advice would be helpful. We want to know if she could be bipolar and just have been symptom free for over a year or is it just her mom trying to convince a judge that she cannot make the decision to live with us. (I know it is a lot of the latter, but I do not know enough about bipolar and I cannot find the answer).


While I was cleaning my computer this morning I found that my husband was searching and watching father-daughter taboo porn! Or mother-son porn! I have a parental program to monitor my children's internet acitvities and everything was documented in the program.

We have 2 teenage children, daughter of 15 and a son of 13!

I'm very worried now about my daughter! Am I overreacting?

If not....Does anyone know of any numbers I can contact and speak to about my problem?

My husband has always been cold sexually and not interested and that didn't really bother me all these years but I'm now very scared that he might do something to our daughter!

What should I do?


Hey everyone, my best friend and her husband recently died in a car crash leaving their three young children in my care. I am the legal guardian named in their will and currently have custody. Her biological family has stated they want custody of her twin daughters, they don't care about her son. I know her family, both of our families lived in the same LDS compound and we were married to the same man before we ran away. The children's father was a lost boy, he was kicked out compound at 15 so he wouldn't be competition for the older men when it came to taking teenage wives. I know what will happen to the girls if children's family gets custody. I'm not going to let the girls suffer the same fate their mother and myself suffered. While I am meeting with a lawyer to discuss my options, I would like to be informed when I go in. If I go the legal guardianship, will there be a chance the family can fight and win for custody? I'm really worried I might be in front of a judge who only cares about family reservations. I also cannot prove the past abuse that the children's parents suffered. I know with an adoption that threat would be gone but I don't want to change the children's last name or take anything away from their identity as my best friend's children. I'm going to raise them as my own, I've loved them as family since they were born. But I'm not the woman who gave birth to them and even if it's just on paper, I don't want to change that. What are my options?


I guess this kind of get's me upset because I have two daughters who are now in the teenage years and well out of the spanking age. They were both given spankings over Dad's lap when needed and they were given with the dress raised if needed and at night they were done the same.
I would think the Father should be more embarrassed to have to spank his eight year daughter on her panty brief.
The question is not whether a father should spank over the nightgown or dress it is this.
What do you do if the child is in a short nightie, shirt, or camisole? Many girls do dress this way at nighttime. If a spanking must be given then whether the little girl is in her panties or not should not matter.
Right??


My adopted teenage son molested our 5 year old princess.
Yes- we reported it to the police and now hubby and I are living separately to accomodate the mandate that our 17 yr old stay away from our little girl (also adopted). The police never even pressed charges but seem content that we have found a solution by my moving with my three young children 100 miles away to live with our grown daughter (natural). I'm starting to wonder why I ever got into this mess. I love all my kids, even the messed up one who was sexually abused by his own father repeatedly for years before we adopted him. I really miss my husband.
Can we put him in the Army?
Can we emancipate him? How do we do that?
We tried to put him in a hospital but they said he wasn't a danger now that my husband was watching him 24 hours a day. Other hospitals just didnt have room.
We need to find a living situation for him where he wont abuse again. We are responsible for his actions until he is 18 and we can have charges pressed on US if we abandon him or if he abuses again. He dropped out of school and was about to start a job when he did this. Hes very immature for his age because he had no childhood.
Thanks for the input.
He has been a good kid and had lots of counselling-Id like to say it was only situational but how do you trust someone who betrayed your trust in the first place? BTW-I stopped him before he penetrated and therefore the police were not as concerned-or so it seems. Its been over a week and no phone calls.He was 13 when we fostered him and 16 when we adopted. He only seemed remorseful when there were consequences for him-very uncharacteristic of him.
And yes, I agree we all need counselling. But first we need a better living arrangement. He is willing to go in the army. Im hoping he will find direction purpose and self control there. Is it really a bad idea?


My adopted teenage son molested our 5 year old princess.
Yes- we reported it to the police and now hubby and I are living separately to accomodate the mandate that our 17 yr old stay away from our little girl (also adopted). The police never even pressed charges but seem content that we have found a solution by my moving with my three young children 100 miles away to live with our grown daughter (natural). I'm starting to wonder why I ever got into this mess. I love all my kids, even the messed up one who was sexually abused by his own father repeatedly for years before we adopted him. I really miss my husband.
Can we put him in the Army?
Can we emancipate him? How do we do that?
We tried to put him in a hospital but they said he wasn't a danger now that my husband was watching him 24 hours a day. Other hospitals just didnt have room.
We need to find a living situation for him where he wont abuse again. We are responsible for his actions until he is 18 and we can have charges pressed on US if we abandon him or if he abuses again. He dropped out of school and was about to start a job when he did this. Hes very immature for his age because he had no childhood.
Thanks for the input.


So basically my daughters doing this psychology thing and she needs films which star or feature either a
preferably ...
.abusive father and son relationship (violent, verbal mental)
or ....
.bullying ( mainly teenage and male)

There is a reason 4 this and were not mental , lol
We cant think of any and we'd really LOVE some help
THHHAAANNNKKKYYOOOUUUU
It doesn't have to be the starring roles
and thanks
... more answers would be appreciated :)


I am having issues with an uncontrollable teenage son. His age is 14, he lives with me (a single mom) and he is by far exhibiting extremely inappropriate behavior, not only extremely inappropriate but also extremely sexual. His father, whom I’m separated from, won’t do anything to punish him and anything I tried to do achieves nothing to curtail such behavior. What is worse is that I am getting calls from the parents of his classmates about my son exposing their children to perversions, one of my son’s friend’s mom called me to inform me that my son and her son was spying on her 17 year old daughter afterschool while she was in the shower and that she never wanted my son to hang around her son. My son is extremely inappropriate, and this spying incident is not even surprising for me. At home it is even worse, he has his hands in his pants constantly and when I tell him to keep his hands out of his pants he yells at me, telling me that he is the man of the house and that he needs to take care of ‘the business’ because no one else but him could.

This is so inappropriate and I’m at my wit-ends with this child. I also have a 12 year old daughter and she doesn’t know what any of this means, but he constantly has his hands in pants even when he is in front of her. She is so confused that a few days ago she informed me, to my surprise, that my son needs medical attention, because she thinks that he has a literal itch which he needs to constantly scratch and he should go see a doctor for that.

One time he told my daughter and I at breakfast that milk is rich in protein, and when I acknowledge that he is correct about the milk being rich in protein he proceeded to chuckle like a nut. I could not understand why he thought nutritional quality of milk was that funny. I didn’t suspect him doing anything to the milk, considering he drank the milk. But my suspicions arose again when he mentioned to my daughter that this milk was special and that he enriched it with protein. Now I am scared to even drink milk, or buy milk. I think he might have 'came' into the milk jug. I think I caught him doing it once when he was carrying the milk jug back from the bathroom.

I fear the thought of taking him to some child psychologist because my husband would this leverage for the custody of the children; right now he is paying child support and I dearly believe his desire is to end the child support payments. I have no idea how to stop his behaviour.
My son uses the internet a lot, without my supervision even though i did install parental controls. He constantly talk about this odd site which i can't remember the name, but i was on the history and the site was pretty weird.

As for the cops, i did try to scare him straight by saying i am going to call the cops but he blackmails me, and he is pretty good at manipulating the truth. He tells people that he does have a jock itch, and it is itchy and he even pretends to know that his behaviour is inappropriate. I am worried about calling the cops because they might call child protective services and i fear that i might lose my daughter, and my husband doesn't want the burden of half the children. he tells me that the child support payment also means baby-sitting payment, and that if i don't want the children i should give him custody of both and his parents will take care of them... I'm very stuck.
Could it get worse? Maybe this is just a phase of development, maybe he will learn the boundaries to his sexuality and what is appropriate. The maurry show might damage him for the rest of his life, it is one thing to talk about this on the internet but it is another thing to publicly expose my son. the maurry show is mostly about ridicule anyways.
Could this just be hormonal stuff, normal puberty with teenage boys? Besides this stuff my darling son is just fine. he is smart, does well in school, but his sexual behaviour is quite odd...
I don't think my son would put my daughter in harms way. i don't even think he would exploit her sexually, i hope not. is he such a danger that i should be worry? when i was growing up, i was the only child but i would imagine teenage boys with hormones can live with girls who are going through puberty themselves. incest isn't common or normal, right?
Madeline: what should i do?


My teenage daugher is out of control. It started in Middle school. She was suspended over and over for fighting skipping disrupting class and giving boys blojobs in the bathrrom which the whole town knows about.

Since then she has gotten worse and has been arrested picked up by the cops, having sex with MANY different boys and is doing drugs in our house and in and out of teenage rehab. She makes D's and F's and is not doing her work in school.

She screams at me and tells me how much she hates me and for brininging her into this world. She calls me a stupid whore all the time and blames me for her not having a father which is not my fault. I tell her it is not my fault she does not listen.

She is out of control. I do not know what to do. Please help.. 8(

I posted a long story which took a long time to write but I am not getting any advice please help.


I am a single mother who lives with my boyfriend and we are beside ourselves dealing with my rebellious and hateful teenage daughter.

By age 13 she was OUT OF CONTROL. And it as gotten worse ever since. She was out with her friends, drinking, doing drugs and having unprotected sex. She screams at me , calls me a stupid whore and tells me how much she hates me every day. She blames me for bringing her into this world and for her not having a father. She calls my boyfriend a loser and curses at us constantly.

She will be 15 soon and already has a reputation in our town for being a bad person and a troublemaker. I do not know what to do or where this all came from.

This started in middle school. She was suspended for giving the boys blojobs in the bathroom , fighting , skipping class and finally expelled when caught with marijuana at school. The school refused to take her back and we transferred here to an ESE school where she started meeting worse people and from there it all went down.

This is really all her friends fault. You should see the people she calls her friends. They are teenage drug users, punks and losers. Many have been arrested and dropped out of school and use drugs. She is making all D's and F's in school and refuses to do her homework and is always sent to ARC!.

She was arrested last year with her friends at the mall for stealing and we have been in court ever since. She is also now started going to clubs and drinking and having sex. She say she has a fake ID but I can't understand how she is able to get in because she looks like a teenage girl! I call every club in town and they say are sorry there is nothing they can do. This is thier fault these club owners should be put in jail!!! Nobody is enforcing these under age laws. Even when I was young they had fake ID's. I had my daughter at 17 so I remember it was not that long ago.

We also caught her partying smoking pot in the house with her friends. They skipped school came TO OUR HOUSE and used drugs. After that I AGAIN put her in a county funded drug rehab center for teens she caught having sex with one of the boys in the dormatory. Within 2 weeks she was back to her ways.

Her grandmother (who has also been helping us out) got me a phone listner I have been listening into her phone calls when she is at the house and I am horrified! When I confronted her she found out and we had a huge fight she assulted me and my boyfriend had to restain her. She ran away from the house for 2 weeks and we could not find her. Finally the police brought her home. She was staying with 3 older boys in an apartment!

There is much more that I could talk about but am I not going to go into it. I will have a neverus break down and cry. I somtimes think this is my fault and wish I never had her. She blames me for not having a father and is very hateful towards me when this one subject comes up. Her father did not want me to have her and when I refused to get an abortion he broke up with me and does not speak to us. He only pays his child support.This is not my fault. I try and explain to her and she doesnt listen.

Is thier any other parents going through this please help. What are we to do? I cannot just kick her out. I dont know what to do. I want to help my daughter but she is out of control. Please help me I need advice. I do not know what else to do. 8(


This may sound unreal or fake but it’s true. I have 4 teenagers live under my roof. My 16 year daughter my 14 year old son(who was adopted) . My sister’s 16 year old daughter and my sister’s 13 year old daughter.

Okay so here’s what happen my sister died a year ago in a shooting. And 2 days after that their father overdosed off prescription pain killers. Two horrible ways to die. And in their will they wanted them to live with me and there was no way I was going to let my nieces into the system beside financially I could support everyone. Before I go on I should also say my wife died from natural causes a year prior to their parents deaths so also most two years ago.

My sister 16 year old give me the most problems. She actually hates. I try to tell he to do something and she does the exact opposite. She blames me for her mom being shot because I was supposed to be visiting that day and I concealed the day she got shot. She says that I’m the one who should be dead not her mom and her dad. She swears and yells at me and she hates her life because I’m just the worst person alive. She will leave without telling me and she’ll just go days without talking or looking at me because I’m the antichrist and I’m also mommy dearest in the house. That’s my new nickname.

My 13 year old niece has been an angel but she taking after her sister and hates me. I actually caught her giving a bj to her sister boyfriend IN MY House. She said she her sister let her watch them on several occasions and she wanted to try it for herself. I wouldn’t say I’m a violent person but when you see a 16 year old with your 13 year old niece you just react in ways you never thought you would. Because I almost kill this kid. Then I call the cops and pressed rape charges which I dropped a month later because my niece said she wanted to do it and that she would runaway and never talk to me again. I did get a restraining order on him though. I also think she has started her period and I have no clue what to do about that. Like do I talk to her about that? But of course she still hates me.

My 16 year old daughter is just a *****. wow I didn’t mean it like that but she’s is horrible to her brother. She’s told him that he can’t talk about his mother because he not real family just a baby that his real parents didn’t want. She blames him for my wife dying she says thing like if we didn’t adopt him that she still be living. She says that she hates him and she hates me for bringing him into her life. It’s like she trying to hurt herself. She has this boyfriend that I don’t like but for her sake I don’t say anything. I’ve caught her smoking cigarettes and smoking pot and drinking. I’ve grounded her but I know all teenager experiment a I had so many talks with her that are like in one ear and out the other. She just ignores her brother and acts like he not there when hr tries to talk to her. She say I favorite him and I’m just a douche bag

My 14 year old son is the most normal and I can actually relate to him. He more open to me. And we can do guy things. But I think he has lost a lot of his self confidence. And she sister has put it in his head that he killed my wife because he was adopted and he think he added stress to her life. Which isn’t true and I tell him that. He thinks he a burden to the family. Some night I just see him crying in his room. He tells me that he think his sister is never going to forgive or love him again for their mom death. Told him that its not his fault for his moms death and that his sister still loves him.

There are all in counseling and I have some of the best counselors but it not getting much better.

Do you have advice? And What do you think of this over all situation? What you think I should for their individual situations?


Everyone goes on and on about a girls virginity, fathers are known for being very protective of their darling little pure girls around guys. But do no parents give a crap about their sons virginity? It shocks me how little thought goes in to a sons first time than goes into a daughters. Perhaps im a little different, being 16, completely socially terrified, and have had bad experiences with grown men when i was very young but i know other boys, normal teenage boys, that have been utterly bricking it before their first time, horribly nervous, even felt like crying, and their parents haven’t seemed to have cared...at all...if anything fathers encourage their sons...get in there my boy....i mean wtf?! Mothers dont go to daughters, go on love shagg his brains out so why is there no sensitivity what so ever for the male virginity? Does it matter more if a guy is gay, a young gay virgin who is going to bottom for an adult man – would the parents care then? Would the father then become protective again? Help me out here...im frustrated and confused...


In the beginning of summer vacation, all was well. I had a nice polite 15 year old daughter who got good grades, always did what i asked, and never acted spoiled. Ever. Then she started acting funny towards the middle of summer, and i didn't know what was wrong. I thought my sweet little girl was finally turning into a teenager, so i didn't do much about it.
About a month later, I notices she started being very rude whenever you would ask her anything, and always had an attitude. She also started to collect sunglasses, and would wear them everywhere. She would never take them off. She stopped eating dinner downstairs, and started taking it up to her room. Then she started looking sick, so i told her she needs to go see a doctor. She went INSANE and had a fit. She has never done this to me. Later that night, i went to her room to go see what is going on with her, except she wasn't there. Its 10:00 pm. She was supposed to be in her room. I conducted a search of her room and found too much stuff that i wish i hadn't. That begun our[more like my] battle with every drug you can think of. Pills, heroin, weed, meth, cocaine, acid, pcp, alcohol and more.
That night when she got home, i was waiting for her. She came in reeking of SOMETHING terrible. I dont know what that smell was but i did not like it. She had blood shot eyes, was stumbling around and couldn't form coherant sentances. I heard a car drive off and ask her where she was. She mumbled "out front to get something llaaatterrr*cough*". I told her to stop lying and i found everything in her room and pointed to it on the downstairs table. She attacked me, and ran off. I searched the city and 3 hours later found some people who knew her told me where she might be. I went to where they directed me, and thats where she was. I had to drag her kicking and screaming into my car while she was calling me a child abuser. she bit me, tried to move the steering wheel so we'd crash, and threw her phone at me. She fought me and punched me all the way into my house.

when we got home, i put her in her room and held the door shut from the outside for about an hour until she tried getting out the window. I heard it open, and she was in the process of jumping out of our second story window. I dragged her to the bathroom and shut her in there until she stopped screaming and trying to break the door down. I opened the door and she was quiet and sitting on the floor and asked if she could come out. I said yes and walked her to the living room. Neighbors were at my door asking if everything was alright. Its 4 am now and i told her we had alot of problems and a long road ahead of us. She said she was sorry and wouldnt do it again. I explained to her that addiction doesnt work that way and she is going to counseling and she would no longer have any freedoms or anything of the sort until she earned it back [and here we go, another tantrum]

Anyway, that was about almost 4 months ago. It was 3 weeks before school started. I put her in therapy and she is supervised almost all the time except her "alone time". She has no door and I search her room throughly once a week randomly. She goes to a new school, and Her aunt picks her up and lunch and she eats lunch at my sisters home. I pick her up immediatly after school. She has a cell phone that can only call me, her aunt, her grandmother, and 911. She gets drug tested every week, and spit tested daily.She doesnt get money. If she needs/wants something she has to ask me and i will go get it for her, or go with her to get it. She must maintain a 3.0 GPA [she started fresh this year!] or she loses her 1 hour of alone time twice a week. starting about two months ago, I leave the house for a hour and she gets time alone.

Anyway, today when she came home from school she told me she thinks she is pregnant and she hasnt had a period in a 2 months.
I asked her to explain herself and she started crying and told me during her "alone time" one of her guy friends would come over and they would have sex just to spite me, and then he would leave through the back.... And she never asked him to wear a condom. oh and shes sorry.

I swear this kid is out to ruin her own life. What the hell is going through her teenage skull?!?! I admit the alone time thing was the dumbest mistake i have ever made but Im at my wits end with this kid. The last thing i want is to give up but i just dont know what to do anymore. Her father is not involved in her life except for sending child support. Thats it. I dont even know what to do now. I cannot afford another kid because i had to cut my hours in half so i could baby sit her. If i didnt have to baby sit her, i could afford much more but right now all i can manage is her therapy, $400 a month in drug tests and our other bills! She has a doctor appointment on Monday.Now if shes pregnant i cant leave her alone because obviously she has a problem with doing things that get her into trouble when she is alone


a family's teenage daughter gets home late at 3am, and the father says "don't ever get home this late again." and the daughter replies "I can't." how is this possible?


This may sound unreal or fake but it’s true. I have 4 teenagers live under my roof. My 16 year daughter my 14 year old son(who was adopted) . My sister’s 16 year old daughter and my sister’s 13 year old daughter.

Okay so here’s what happen my sister died a year ago in a shooting. And 2 days after that their father overdosed off prescription pain killers. Two horrible ways to die. And in their will they wanted them to live with me and there was no way I was going to let my nieces into the system beside financially I could support everyone. Before I go on I should also say my wife died from natural causes a year prior to their parents deaths so also most two years ago.

My sister 16 year old give me the most problems. She actually hates. I try to tell he to do something and she does the exact opposite. She blames me for her mom being shot because I was supposed to be visiting that day and I concealed the day she got shot. She says that I’m the one who should be dead not her mom and her dad. She swears and yells at me and she hates her life because I’m just the worst person alive. She will leave without telling me and she’ll just go days without talking or looking at me because I’m the antichrist and I’m also mommy dearest in the house. That’s my new nickname.

My 13 year old niece has been an angel but she taking after her sister and hates me. I actually caught her giving a bj to her sister boyfriend IN MY House. She said she her sister let her watch them on several occasions and she wanted to try it for herself. I wouldn’t say I’m a violent person but when you see a 16 year old with your 13 year old niece you just react in ways you never thought you would. Because I almost kill this kid. Then I call the cops and pressed rape charges which I dropped a month later because my niece said she wanted to do it and that she would runaway and never talk to me again. I did get a restraining order on him though. I also think she has started her period and I have no clue what to do about that. Like do I talk to her about that? But of course she still hates me.

My 16 year old daughter is just a *****. wow I didn’t mean it like that but she’s is horrible to her brother. She’s told him that he can’t talk about his mother because he not real family just a baby that his real parents didn’t want. She blames him for my wife dying she says thing like if we didn’t adopt him that she still be living. She says that she hates him and she hates me for bringing him into her life. It’s like she trying to hurt herself. She has this boyfriend that I don’t like but for her sake I don’t say anything. I’ve caught her smoking cigarettes and smoking pot and drinking. I’ve grounded her but I know all teenager experiment a I had so many talks with her that are like in one ear and out the other. She just ignores her brother and acts like he not there when hr tries to talk to her. She say I favorite him and I’m just a douche bag

My 14 year old son is the most normal and I can actually relate to him. He more open to me. And we can do guy things. But I think he has lost a lot of his self confidence. And she sister has put it in his head that he killed my wife because he was adopted and he think he added stress to her life. Which isn’t true and I tell him that. He thinks he a burden to the family. Some night I just see him crying in his room. He tells me that he think his sister is never going to forgive or love him again for their mom death. Told him that its not his fault for his moms death and that his sister still loves him.

There are all in counseling and I have some of the best counselors but it not getting much better.

Do you have advice? And What do you think of this over all situation?


My daughter is 16 years old. She has nearly perfect grades, she's on student council, a member of the national honor society, takes part in choir, she lifts weights, runs track, and is in gymnastics. She's a very good kid, and when I got a call from a department store telling me she'd been arrested for shoplifting I thought it was a joke.

But it wasn't a joke. My daughter was with her boyfriend, and for some reason they decided to shoplift. She hid a shirt and shorts in her purse and the employees caught her and her boyfriend as they were leaving the store. Her boyfriend is in her class, and a well behaved young man. Neither of them are the type of person I would expect to shoplift.

Her father and I decided to take away her car and her cell phone. Also, we have decided she is not allowed to see her boyfriend outside of school. We also told her she couldn't go to the homecoming parade, football game, or dance. Instead of spending time with her friends and boyfriend this weekend like she normally would be doing, she had to stay at home and we made her spend time with us. We also made her mow the lawn and help me run some errands.

I'm wondering if we, as parents, applied the right punishments. She pointed out to me that, aside from the punishments she is recieving at home, she has to pay $250 to the store she stole from, court fees, and a lawyer...

But I don't see her showing any remorse for what she did. My daughter told me she simply does not show remorse, but I don't know what to think..

This entire weekend she has been very bitter and rude and mean to us all. I called her out on her behavior and she says "You'd better get used to it. This is what happens when you take away my boyfriend."

I'm wondering if I made the right decision... I have a feeling that if she doesn't get to see her boyfriend then she'll continue to stay in this awful mood. I think that's the only punishment that is really bothering her...

Anyways I would appreciate comments/suggestions of any kind!


And I've had the Baby Name question in my head all freaking day, would you EVER name your child this?

Zelda.

I bet your getting memories of Sabrina the Teenage Witch, right? That is where I got this name. I don't hate it, but I wouldn't name MY kid Zelda...

Would you? Also, since I'm really bored, how about a BNG???

1. You and your high school sweetheart tie the knot on your twenty-first birthday. You are now _____ _____ and _____ _____ _____. (names)

2. You have a nice house and finally add to your family of two. It's a girl. Since she looks like you, she is sort-of named after you. She is _____ _____. (name)

3. Your daughter is now three, and you want another child. Nine months later give birth to a little boy. He is named after your father, since instead of getting your blue eyes or your husbands brown ones, he got your fathers mossy green ones. His name is _____ _____. (name)

4. Your daughter is seven and your son is four. After thinking, you and your husband add again. It's beautiful twin girls. You give them names that aren't annoyingly rhyme-y but instead just connected to each other. They are _____ _____ and _____ _____. (names)

5. Your daughter is ten, your son is seven and your twins are three. Your husband wants your son to have a brother, so you have another child. Surprise! It's a little girl. You give her a name you've always loved, but two middles names. She is _____ _____ _____. (names.)

6. A year later, your husband still wants another boy. About nine months later, he gets that wish! You have fraternal twin boys. They are _____ _____ and _____ _____.

7. You tried for more, but since you didn't get any, you say you are done with kids. Your daughter is sixteen, your son is thirteen, your twin girls are nine, your second daughter is six and your twin boys are five. But, you end up pregnant one last time. It's a little boy. You give him a special name, since he is the baby and hopefully your last child. His name is _____ _____. (name)

8. What are all your kids' names?
JimB, are you on some sort of medication???

Because that was both random and stupid.


Okay, I'm doing a little research about why father's don't want their teenage daughters (15-16) to date or have a relationship. (it's for a story and since my parents are divorced and I can't ask my own father I'll have to ask other dad's) So dad's: WHY?! I need to know in detail!


Since my daughter turned 13yrs old, she has been a nightmare! boys, drinking possibly drugs, lying, sex. (She still a top student and top in sport.) Before then she was an absolute joy (Knew right from wrong) As a mother I am not mary poppins, but I have talked, guided and supported all my children to the best of my ability I have 4 children and my daughter is the only girl and 2nd eldest. My husband hasn't been a very hands on dad, but still a good man, I have done all the hard yards. My daughter constantly runs her father down and yet when she see's him she is full of hugs, kisses and talks to him, She holds nothing but contempt for me, and only contacts me when she wants money, I get all the abuse and this confuses me. She doesn't live in our house because she wanted out of here She lives with family and seems happier there but it wasn't meant to be forever, ultimately I want her home because I love her so much and I tell her this all the time. Any advice would be much appreciated.


Does anyone else notice that it is common for siblings to have the same rising sign? I'll explain the pattern within my large family........
I am one of 7 children and all of us, except for my youngest sister, have our risings the same with another. I myself am a Scorpio rising along with my oldest brother. Another pair of my siblings are Sagittarius risings(this pair also have the same moon which is Leo), while another pair are Taurus risings.
My teenage sister, is a Libra rising, and no other sibling has it, but that is my fathers rising sign.
I see this pattern among the children of my siblings that are married.
One of my younger sisters has two sons, a Libra/Libra and a Capricorn/Capricorn who both have Virgo rising conjunct my sister's Virgo Venus. My older sister has two daughters, a Scorpio/Scorpio and an Aries/Gemini who both have Taurus rising conjunct my sister's Taurus sun. My older brother, has two sons, a Libra/Virgo and a Sagittarius/Scorpio who both have Gemini rising conjunct my brothers and my sister n law's Gemini Venus.
Basically, within my own large family, I see a pattern with the same rising signs. I think it's pretty cool.
Yea... it is weird and surprising. I intended to find any connections with our charts. For a long time I didn't know the rising sign of one of my brothers...but I asked my mother about it and she found his vital records. I have a probing mind thanks to my Mercury in Scorpio conjunct my Scorpio ascendant.
someone, yes we are all from the same mother and father. my parents are still married.


My father in law has always hated me. He hates me for many reasons, but mostly because he thinks women should be quiet obedient slaves, and I'm a very opinionated woman who believes and practices equality. He has said in the past I'm an overopinionated undereducated feminist idiot, which is completely untrue I am an RN and am going back to school for my masters, and despite being opinionated I don't force my opinions on others. But he also hates me because he says I ruined his son (my husbands) life because we married so young, when I was 19 and he was 18, and because we were each others first and only sexual partners and he thinks I robbed him of the opportunity to experience many partners. But anyways usually we try not to be around him much but we went to a family get together yesterday and we brought our 14 month old daughter (btw I'm 25 now) and we were in the living room and he made a really rude comment about the fact that his teenage daughter has gained weight and she cried and left the room and I said, "You really should never criticize a womans weight. Its a sensitive subject." and when I said that he retorted, "who cares about your opinion? your just a stupid bitch slut." He said it right in front of my husband and our daughter, while she was sitting there playing on the floor. Well my husband immediately got into it with his dad and told him he cant talk to me like that and then we left and as we were leaving I told him I'm not coming back and that he cannot see my daughter because I won't let someone poison my daughter against me, and he claims I can't do that because he can get grandparents rights, which I know is bull. Well it really infuriated me. Please tell me my daughter...she's too young to really pick any of that up right? I mean she was crying and screaming because the argument got so loud it scared her and I'm afraid it messed her up. I'm overreacting right?


I have been involved with a single father of a teenage daughter who because of her mother our relationship is not good. When I try to talk to him about the mother he gets upset at me for letting her upset me. He says I don't trust him if I did I wouldn't let her get to me. I want to believe him,but I feel she has some kind of hold on him. He did chose me when she tried to take her family back. Guys am I being to hard on him?


I got a girl pregnant in high school and we have lived together up until a few months ago. Now that we aren't together, we need a visitation schedule. She wants me to have visitation only every other weekend, which in unfair because I've been around the entire time, I'm just not happy with her mother. We don't want to go to court, but I need help in convincing her that I deserve more than every other weekend. Does anyone know of a good website that clearly states that in joint custody or standard visitation it is often split very evenly?

I just need help finding something written that makes it clear that as my daughters father, one that has been very active in her life, I deserve the same rights that a man who had been married this whole time would get.
My daughter is 2 1/2. Ive been with her EVERY DAY that entire time, including the several months that she was in NICU in another state while I was still in high school.

Also, the mother lives in MY parents house with my daughter. I'm the one that had to move out and get my own place, and she is on no time limit to move out.

help?
I just want to spend time with my baby...





Father
as black stars fill my day, i see beyond what is today
remember playground, and the great escapes
in my gaze, that is so far away
i remember laughter that was taken away
and put into a daughters day, replacing me in every way
she sis not let you run too far, no faith in you at all
to innocent and youthful eyes, she took my everything away.

i never knew him, the day he was driven away
the daughter took his hand, and held him to her transfixed gaze
she wraped herself around him, yet he did not object
stunned by all before me, i tried tosearch for strength
words fled me, and i just looked in to his far away gaze
my father turned my way, but looked right beyond me
as if i was not taking place
she led him to the door, and he stepped through
with just that single step, aand his lonely face
the door closed, and i was left my shame.

years later, i still remeber the good days
thought teenage years were very rough
i never was big or tough
drawing for you inner strenght
a stubborn pride of equal strength
i tried to always make you proud of the only thing you had around
before she came, the only thing you ever cared about.

you never seemed to be ashamed
so what made you so afraid?
what part of you did she take
before she took the rest of you away?
what made you in the end so harsh
that you would leavr me with no pain?
no tears for me to find, not evena picture frame.

when i had blinked, you were gone
i was not man, i was not boy
i was a fatherless one
please dad,just hear me call
i'm sorry if my doings were so very wrong
i can't walk, i cannot breath, although i try
please, dont see that i am crying
if i do, don't be mad
i cant fight this anymore
please, dad come back to me once more.


im a teenage dad...my son was born when i was 18..now im nineteen....i was always there for him no matter what the situation was...i was always there for my partner too..but see all the time we always fight over lil things..for example: just because im using the computer she gets mad and turns it off...or just because i showered first..she has to bust out violence and drama....but yesterday got really out of hand..so we broke up but this time i was serious since we broke up like 50 times in 2 years...i cudnt take it anymore..but im still there for my son.. im loyal to my son..hes everything to me..im filipino by the way and i was taught with more values.. i didnt grow up rich so i dont take life for granted...so then her mom got involved..her mother said i cant see my son for 2 weeks jsut because her daughter needs to adjust on this situation about me and her not being together anymore...i mean i understand that she needs to adjust..but this has nothing to do with the relationship between me and my son...and i was like 2 weeks??? who said that??how cud she make her own decision like if she was the superior court??shouldnt i have the rights to see my son anytime i want?? she also said that i cud only see him for 2 hours after my work??i was like wTF?...2 hours??in one day i only see my son for two hours???..i jsut thought it was unfair..and my son lives with them...but im gona take it to court to know my rights as a father to my son...and plus im the one who wanted to keep the baby while she wanted to abort.. i pushed her to keep it cuz it is not the kids fault and to just face the responsibilities we have to take...her mom even said that im not responsible cuz i didnt get our own place??how is it that u cud tell someones not responsible jsut for not having a place for his family...well im just 18 ..or what if were not ready to move in since we argue alot..why wud i move in with someone who argues with me alot?? i dont want my son to witness and have that kind of environment....so i went out of her house and i cried cuz that really hurts not to see my son for 2 weeks..and im always there for him...so im jsut asking shouldnt both the mom and the dad have equal rights to their child??how is it that a mother has more rights when both of the mom and dad made the child?people focus on the wrong things..love is love for the child...a fight between partners is between the partner.. an 11 month old child doesnt have to be involved....ohh yea just because her mom said i cant see him for two weeks doesnt mean im gna do it..im smarter than that..ofcourse ill see him everyday no matter what... im just a proud father...


I a dating a divorced man....his teenage daughter intimidates me. She is 16 and I have observed her being very rude and hateful to her boyfriends and other people...I am fearful of crossing her path. I make a point not to be alone with her because I fear that she will say things that aren't true about me and when her father and I are on a date she constantly texts him when she knows that he is with me. The other day while her dad and I were sitting at the house she called and said...daddy will you buy me a house if I want it...he said..sure honey...you are Daddy's little girl. Is this normal behavior or is this just a teenage phase?

I do love his daughter and have made a special effort to take his daughter to work, to take her to the doctor, to take her food at her functions when she has forgotten to get something, to get her hair done at a nice salon. I know that I am not her mother but I do what I can and I work hard at not pushing myself onto her. In fact her father gave me a key to his house but I do not use it as I do not want to invade his daughter's space or territory. He tells me all the time that I am welcome to come over to his house but I feel like I am invading her house as she runs that house not my boyfriend.


OK, so there's this girl I like and whenever I'm hanging around with her the father usually stares at me as if he wants to kill me; when we say goodbye he always shakes my hand though. I perfectly understand that he is being cautious and that's what I would do if I was a father of a teenage daughter, but are there any methods or tips on how to gain trust from the parents (mainly father in this case)? I am a nice guy and I do not believe in disrespect (hehem; sex) towards young women. Thanks! :-)


During my childhood I was very shy and always felt weak and insecure. Since, my dad was quite strict and the most dominant person in my life I felt the most pressure from him to be confident and talk. Throughout my teenage years I suppose I lashed out at him whenever he tried to tell me what to do. I'm 20 years old now and the conflicts are still going on.
I've got it into my head that he is out to get me and usually most of the arguements are about the chores in the house. I'm normally a polite and responsible person but whenever me and my dad argue I turn into a child again.
There was a time not long ago when my sister was having troubles with her life and she was causing a lot of trouble so the arguements between me and my dad were non-existent. But now my sister is behaving normally again and we're back to arguing.
How does it stop? I think it is going to take time because right now I find it impossible to pour my heart out.


why would some of you think of kicking your daughters out the house after finding out they are pregnant? I've seem this happen a lot from people I have met and even a few close friends. Obviously not ALL parents would do this (I.e my aunt didn't kick out my cousin when she found out she was pregnant) and I am not yelling at anyone cause of it because I obviously am not father, which is why I ask? I really do believe it is cruel to let them just go off and sometimes forced to live with the "babies daddy". like I said its not always the same situation but I just wnat a point of view from parents. I have read many saying they would support their daughters 100% but i have barely seen any of that sort in my experience.

I'm just worried because this has recently happened to my really close friend and in a way I am furious and can't find a reasonable answer for why any parent would do that.
Especially when they are still a minor.

A mistake is a mistake and you can be mad at us all you want, ou can say its all our fault and it is our responsibility to deal with it because WE chose to have sex but when everything is falling down at once and you keep pouring more and more on, you just make it worst by some of these actions. I know some parents act like this because they are scared but i don't think you should act liek you are completely abandoning them, at least show that you are gonna give them moral support. Give them a place to start rebuilding their lifes because without it, and I knw from my own experience and from the many pregnant foster girls my grandma taken in and has taken care of, they will just get more and mroe miserable and all we can do is HOPE that some sort of luck will come by and help them off their knees.



feel free to talk I'm jsut a 17 yr old boy what do I know right? Just worried because I know if that ever happens to my daughter or to any of her friends or etc. I will help them even if I have to sleep on the floor to give them a bed to sleep in


Hi!!

I was 15 years old when My girlfriend got pregant.I freaked out and broke up with her.In the mean time that she was pregnant she met another guy and has been with him for 15 years.I tried calling her 5 years after the fact.I was 20 years old.She kinda of shut me down pretty quick.Understandably.

I decided then That it would be best to leave the child alone because she was in a happy family and I didnt want to disrupt her in her life at that age.I was living 10 hrs from her too.

All those years I have been thinking about her like crazy.6 months ago I emailed the mother telling her how I felt and that I was sorry and why i did what I did for so long.I also told the mother That I would always be there for the child when she is ready to know who I am and I would take care of her.I have never paid child support and she never asked for it either.

Its been 6 months and she never answered me.I REALLY want to get to know her and take care of her...I want to spoil her and get to know her.I would like to help for her education as well when she is ready to go to university or college.

Do you guys have any advice for me as for how I should go about to contacting her and the mother?

I am married now with no kids and my wife is 100% behind me too.

Thanks alot!
Thanks for your honest answers.I totaly unserstand both of you.

If I ever do get to meet her I will definitaly be there all the time for her.I dont want to gain custody of her.Im an honest and realy good person that made a studid decision when I was 15 years old and got freaked out.
Even if its been that long I still feel I can offer her alot.I did try to contact her a few years after but shut me down.....nobody's perfect and sometimes deserves another chance to make things right....Am I wrong here?
Sorry there is no reply slot for me So I have to add in additionnal details.

I am not mad at the mother and never will.I totaly understand were she is coming from.And as for kicker her dad on the curb I would never even think of doing that.And if I ever get to meet her I will explain everyhting to her on what happened over the years and why.I will also tell her that I know her real dad is the one shes got right now and not me.Im pretty sure she knows that he is not her real father.but I dont know what the mother told her about me.

I really really can offer some good things in life,not only in gifts either.She would be treated like gold.

But I do understand that there is no excuse for what i did.What also happened is that she wanted a baby and stopped the pills without telling me.Her friend told me a few months later.I was kinda pissed off at that by im way over it now.

Thank you guys for beeing strait and honnest about this.
I dont need to hear that everything is ok I need to hear that hard facts especially for those of you who experienced it.

I am really a GOOD person and like I said before, I can offer her alot...and all my family too.
i am also ready to answer any questions she would have,no matter how hard...
another thing too is that The feelings I have is not if guilt.There is a little bit of guilt there but since she was raised and taken care of very well its not what my main feelings are.My feelings are that I Missed out on too much that I dont want to miss out on the rest...

But in any case my feelings are not important here....its her feelings that count.


Sorry so long...big issue (asked a similar question in parenting but felt it might be a better fit over here)

Okay I have 2 half sisters. I didn't know them until I was 19. When I finally reconnected with my father. At the time my sisters were 11 and 6.

They saw me a lot for about 3 years. My college breaks I would come out for a week at a time. I spent a whole summer with them when I was 20. And when I was 21 I saw them once.

Anyways I got married pretty fast but it was the right pace for us. We dated for 11 months.

Anyways my sisters had two totally different responses to it. The younger one who is now 9 handled that really well, she totally adores my husband. My sister who I was very close to who is now 15 didn't handle it well at all. Infact she refused to talk to me for a year.

I've seen them twice in the last year, she had finally started to come around on the fact that I was married.

Now I'm pregnant with my first child, a little girl. And I couldn't be happier. My youngest sis is very very excited.

But The 15 year old isn't handling it well. She feels I will not have any time for her anymore (even though when I go out to see her she is always busy with her friends and her teenage life now so I had the guilt trips she tries to throw). She has no interest in the baby it seems. She says she doesn't like the fact that this baby that isn't even born yet is more important to me than her.

And yeah this baby is way more important to me than anyone.

Our grandmother told me that she is just having a hard time adjusting to my new life, especially after I came in and she got real close to me and then I went on with my life.

But what I think my sister has always failed to realize is I'm 8 years older than her, and my priorities are not all fun and games anymore.

I know she will understand one day, and as a teen you think the world revolves around you.

But it hurts because I take such an interest in everything she does, I've always considered her one of my very best friends...but she is taking absolutely no interest in my daughter so far. I hope that changes after she is born.

What can I do to help her get used to the fact that my life is changing?


I appreciate any advice you have to give.

By the way she normally loves babies and normally gets excited when one is on the way
ADD: I see her twice a year, like always. I just don't come out for summers anymore since I've been married. I mean we do live over 8 hours away from each other.

She is also very upset that I can't come out for thanksgiving like a promised, but the doc won't let me travel
Hey You: She is very important to me. She is my sister. I need her support right now.


Sorry so long...big issue

Okay I have 2 half sisters. I didn't know them until I was 19. When I finally reconnected with my father. At the time my sisters were 11 and 6.

They saw me a lot for about 3 years. My college breaks I would come out for a week at a time. I spent a whole summer with them when I was 20. And when I was 21 I saw them once.

Anyways I got married pretty fast but it was the right pace for us. We dated for 11 months.

Anyways my sisters had two totally different responses to it. The younger one who is now 9 handled that really well, she totally adores my husband. My sister who I was very close to who is now 15 didn't handle it well at all. Infact she refused to talk to me for a year.

I've seen them twice in the last year, she had finally started to come around on the fact that I was married.

Now I'm pregnant with my first child, a little girl. And I couldn't be happier. My youngest sis is very very excited.

But The 15 year old isn't handling it well. She feels I will not have any time for her anymore (even though when I go out to see her she is always busy with her friends and her teenage life now so I had the guilt trips she tries to throw). She has no interest in the baby it seems. She says she doesn't like the fact that this baby that isn't even born yet is more important to me than her.

And yeah this baby is way more important to me than anyone.

Our grandmother told me that she is just having a hard time adjusting to my new life, especially after I came in and she got real close to me and then I went on with my life.

But what I think my sister has always failed to realize is I'm 8 years older than her, and my priorities are not all fun and games anymore.

I know she will understand one day, and as a teen you think the world revolves around you.

But it hurts because I take such an interest in everything she does, I've always considered her one of my very best friends...but she is taking absolutely no interest in my daughter so far. I hope that changes after she is born.

What can I do to help her get used to the fact that my life is changing?
ADD: I just felt that some of you may have been here before or some of you with teenage children could give me some advice
ADD: I see her twice a year, like always. I just don't come out for summers anymore since I've been married. I mean we do live over 8 hours away from each other.

She is also very upset that I can't come out for thanksgiving like a promised, but the doc won't let me travel
ADD: I'm on bedrest by the way


My daughter has lived with me and my two grandchildren after her divorce for the last 6 years. My two grandsons are my life, I have taken care of them while my daughter works and I run my business. All I have done is try to make them happy and love them with all my heart. After the divorce, I became their father and part time mother plus a grandma who spoiled them and protected them. The boys are reaching teenage years now and they need a "guardian" to check them after school, see who they are hanging out with because my daughter is too busy with her own personal issues and does not realize it.
The pain comes because she told me that she is planning on moving out because is best that they are on their own.

Is it normal to feel so unappreciated, is it normal to feel this horrible pain my heart is going through right now? Maybe I am being selfish, but I know how those boys need me and I even think they agree with their mom because they know they will have more freedom to do what they want which is what I am so afraid of, its like they have ganged against me and my heart is just torn to pieces.

I have no one to talk to as my mom is old, just had breast cancer surgery and I take care of her also.

Am I being selfish hurting this way?
You guys are a blessing, you all deserve a best answer. Tough choice for me.